Posts by WhiteLightC8

So here’s the thing, and as a long standing member of the Grief Club it feels pertinent to clarify, when you have experienced a life changing loss it’s not about “finding a new normal”.  It is SO MUCH MORE than that.  It is a complete reinventing and reimagining of all that life was and all that…

“I’ll sleep when I’m dead.”  “I’ll rest when everything is done.” “I just have to get through this week, then I’ll take a break.” The thing is that ALL the things will NEVER be done.  And your value is not dependent on how many things you can get done. So, give yourself permission to rest,…

Does a caterpillar ever wonder if the uncomfortable process of complete transformation will be a mistake? Or does it simply surrender to the deep knowingness that the processes of undoing and becoming are one and the same and that endings are indeed beginnings? When we experience profoundly life changing events it’s as if we are…

I would argue that uncertainty is the most common sensation we experience. It is also the one of the most uncomfortable.  Especially, in those moments that we desire certainty above all else.   True FAITH (complete trust of confidence in someone or something) then requires that we let go of our desire to control outcomes, to sit…

If perspective simply means a particular way of considering something, why not consider perfection in all things? “Indeed, for a given thing, being perfect is nothing but being all that it can be, and achieving the fullness of its essence, being in act all that it can be in potentiality.”  – Cyril Arnaud, Axiology 4.0, 2014…

Here is the challenge if you choose to accept it:  Take a moment and say this phrase several times, each time placing the emphasis on each word in turn. (Bonus point if you say it outloud) WHAT if it’s easy?What IF it’s easy?What if IT’S easy?What if it’s EASY?  What did you notice? Is there resistance in…

Our mindset matters.  Our brains are hardwired for confirmation bias. This means that it actively seeks out evidence to affirm what we already believe.  So when our thoughts tell us everything sucks, that life is hard and terrible, our brain will seek and find the evidence to support that this belief is right.  The beautiful thing…

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we are.” – Brene Brown But what if no one likes who I am? What if who I am isn’t enough?  Fear leads us to believe it is much safer to be who we think…

There are times when life, when we, feel kinda like a windshield absolutely covered in bird poo. Yes? I mean poo, just everywhere.  And then the rain comes.And we all know that generally when it rains, it pours. Right?    But then it’s amazing, just like that, our windshield’s clean. So, take a deep breath,…

We have become accustomed to moving through our lives on autopilot, constantly chasing what’s next. Attempting to keep pace with the illusion that time is linear.  So, pause for a minute. What were you doing? Were you truly present with whatever task you were attending to? Or was your mind already on to the next thing and the thing after that? …